Life, Love and Friendships with Oprah & Gayle | The OG Chronicles | Oprah Mag


Yeah, I’ve never wanted to be Oprah. Yeah Have you ever wanted to be me? I never wanted to be you! But the other thing is, whatever like I- when I- Yes, you have. We are here on the Holland America Girls Getaway Cruise for a special edition of OG Chronicles. Which- should we explain why we’re dressed this way? I don’t want anybody to think
“Now they’re dressing alike.” Not true. You know not only are we dressed alike,
we have the same watch on. Hello, hello We’re wearing Talbots. Yes. We got some questions about life, about love,
and friendship from some of our readers right here on the cruise. What you got? Hi, I’m Anita Thomas- On my flight here to the cruise, I was upgraded to first class
and my friend was not. I took the first-class seat because she said it was okay,
but I felt like maybe it wasn’t okay. She was not okay with it. She was not okay. No, if you’re traveling together- Yeah You’re traveling together. I don’t think it’s right either to take the first-class seat. Yeah, you think she should have stayed in coach? I do. Would you have stayed in coach? I would have. Yeah I know you would have. I definitely- You’re taking- you’re kind of like
choking on your words, Mami. Well, I definitely would’ve stayed. Oh yes. She’s feeling some kind of way. She mad at you. Yes. Go to your friend and say “I’m so sorry.” “I made a mistake. I should have stayed there with you.” But I wouldn’t have left you. Yeah, I wouldn’t have left you either, cuz that’s how you know who your real friends are. I always use the example of: once I was uh, you know, I used to be driven around in limousines, now nobody uses limousines anymore. One time, something happened
and the limousine broke down, and that’s who you know your friends are but people who would ride on a bus when the limo breaks down, who’s gonna be with you when they say “Oh, it’s okay if we don’t have the limousine”
That’s- that’s what you really want. Yeah. This is Allison Krotwell: Over the holidays, both my husband’s family and my family pressure us to spend time with them, and I want to know how do we talk to them about establishing
our own family traditions? Oh, I love this. You set the boundaries but you set them now. You don’t wait until Christm- -before the holidays. Before the holidays. You say: “Guys, this is what we’ve decided we’re going to do for this year, for our family” And then you tell them when you will be able to spend because people always are thinking about themselves, And “what does this mean for me?” So you say, “This is what we’ve decided together as a family- WE decided “we’ve decided together as a family.” So they don’t think “Oh, no, that’s her,
she trying to keep them away from us” So, “this is what we have decided.” You lay out the new plan for them waaay ahead of time. Don’t wait for the holidays,
‘cuz then it will turn into a thing, And just because you’ve done something
the same way forever, this is the thing that always stuck with me. You always have the right to change your mind. I heard that on The Oprah Show. It’s true. Hi Oprah and Gayle, Amy Boyle from Chicago: Have a question for ya, over the years my friendships have changed as I’ve gotten older and I’ve wondered Do you keep your original circle, do you keep adding on or do you stick with your old friends? I think it’s hard to meet new friends. I think you may be scarred because remember
you had that friend who- Yes. slept with your husband and when you found them with your husband you said, “I thought you were my friend!” And she said “I never liked you!” Yes, so yes. Gayle has been my best best friend since we were 21 and 22. So over the years, I’ve tried to make other friends
with other people. I remember that friend I was gonna try to have, and the person wanted to borrow money. I loaned it to her. and I said she’s gonna pay you back and she di’nt. You know what I call it? Yeah. My “negro exit fee” The reason why, the reason why our friendship is
so great is because Gayle has always wanted-
and I’ve always wanted the best for her, she’s always wanted best for me. I’ve never wanted to be Oprah. Yeah. Have you ever wanted to be me? And I never wanted to be you! But the other thing is, whenever I like-
when I made new friends, And Gayle would like “Oh, I can’t wait to meet them!” Yeah. So Gayle is the kind of friend
who is secure enough in the friendship, I’m the kind of friend who’s secure enough in the friendship, that if she wanted to bring another friend in, neither of us thinks “Oh that means I have to move out.” If you try to bring somebody new into the group
and then somebody go “No” and they feel threatened by that, that’s what makes it hard. Hi, Oprah, and Gayle- I’m Eileen Fruithandler, My question is, I have friends who make snarky comments on my social media posts. Hm How do you handle haters on social media? Especially old friends who are jealous of you rather than happy for you. There’s a difference between snarky and playful so if you’re taking it as snarky, I think there’s a way you can tease a friend without it feel like you’re tearing her down or taking a dig- Like the time when you said you
passed the TV and my boob hit you in the eye? Yes! Oprah had on a dress with a lot of cleavage, and I just- No, no! This is what you said, this is what you said: you call, I get on the phone, you say “I have a black eye” I said “Oh my god, what happened?!” You said, “I passed the TV and
your boob hit me in the eye!” Or the time I got some blonde highlights in my hair, that everybody said looked good and Oprah said “You look ridiculous! Why do you think blonde looks good?” I go, “This isn’t blonde. This is highlights in my hair.” This is what she’s telling me,
“This is what the sun did to my hair” I was in the sun, and I had some highlights- Okay, Okay negro! “You look ridiculous!” But there’s a difference between that and snarkiness. I wasn’t even offended by that. I just disagreed with her. Yes. This is the truth, you cannot maintain a relationship with people who lose oxygen as you’re on the climb of your life. And along the climb, lots of people lose oxygen as you reach higher altitudes and they have to- -And they start to resent you, -Yeah Your success, your happiness. They can’t handle the altitude
and you have to let them go. Hi Oprah and Gayle I’m Janae Pierre Rayven. I have a friend who really can’t dance.
I try to help her on the dance floor but she relies on me so much for help that sometimes I just need her to sit down so I can have some fun. How do you nicely say that to your friend? Why is this a problem? I was just gonna say that.
I don’t think you need to tell her to sit down. This is dancing! Why is that even a problem? She’s a bad dancer, you’re a good dancer.
Just let her dance. Yeah, let her- And then you just be the better dancer, who cares? Yeah, let her do her thing. So let her be a bad dancer. You how many bad dancers I’ve been with? Yes. Including myself. I’m Sarah Hirsch. My husband and I have been together for over 13 amazing years. We’ve become- what I would say is the definition of fat and happy. I’ve watched all the success that you guys have had on Weight Watchers so I rejoined and I’m excited about it and I would love it if my husband would commit to doing it with me and we could have fun on this journey together, but he hasn’t been all that interested. What do you suggest for finding a way to really interest him into joining me
and living a really healthier lifestyle? So, the wonderful thing about Weight Watchers is that it’s not a diet. So you’re gonna live by example and your husband’s gonna see all the incredible foods that you get to eat, and he’s going to be inspired by that. It’s not gonna be like he gets these meals
and you get something else you’re gonna make it all
a part of what you do as the family. And it’s going to be just like at my house when Stedman goes: “this is on Weight Watchers?” That’s the things that’s so great about it. Because with Weight Watchers, you could eat real food. You can eat all the foods you like, it’s just a matter of counting the points, so you keep track and it makes you accountable. Hi, Oprah and Gayle My name is Debbie Ross. I have a relative of mine that’s in a very toxic relationship, but she’s not in good financial position to leave her husband. And she’s really struggling because
she has a daughter in high school. How do I encourage and support her
even though she doesn’t think she’s ready to live her life on her own terms? Yeah, but she’s not ready. If she’s not ready- Keyword: Not ready. She’s saying she’s not ready. Yeah, and this is what I say,
even if you are in an abusive relationship, the experts will tell you that You need a plan. It’s not something that you just get up and-
you just get up and go unless your life is threatened and you are in danger. You need to have a plan. How are you going to be able to take care of yourself? And manage your life. The key there is she said her friend said she’s not ready- That means you’re not ready! You can’t help somebody who’s not ready to be helped. You can help her get ready. You can do that. You can help her get ready. How do you help her get ready if she says
“I’m not ready”? Say “well, what will it take to get you ready?” So you can help her in the plan to get ready. I’m Tara Stenson. So I have a friend who is never really there for the little things, but she’s always there for the big things. She’s always too busy or she says no,
so I’m wondering is she a true friend? What’s little to you? Like showing up for your
little stuff that’s going on, no. What matters is that somebody is
there when you can depend on. Yeah, when you really need them. Can you depend on that person? We thank you for watching! From our cruise ship! For more videos like this, go to OprahMag.com Or go to Talbots and get some shirts. You too can have this outfit! You too!

100 thoughts on “Life, Love and Friendships with Oprah & Gayle | The OG Chronicles | Oprah Mag

  1. Woman @ 7:35, you all are too deep in. You cannot force anyone into your newfound lifestyle choices. If anyone chooses to shift their person/progress in life, be prepared to suffer loss. Don't hold back on self improvement, just understand your husband may not want the same and that is okay.

  2. ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ต๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐ŸŒฌ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ†๐Ÿ‘

  3. I love them both, but its time they come out about their real relationship. I say that out of love and respect.

  4. I would have been like, let's share first class. You for the first half, then me for the second half. OR asked for two business class seats instead of one first class seat.

  5. Will you consider doing an OG Cruise? River cruise? Hmmm. I'd love that. If you want… I'll let you take me along, since I thought of it ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. The clothes me and my girl friend had plans to go somewhere together and showed in the same dress…. sheโ€™s my bf

  7. I love every episode because you show that you are normal people. Successful women, successful black women and funny and smart. I love it.

  8. Lololololololol!!!!! Oprah you cracked me up so HARD! when you started poppin your fingers and rockin!!!Lol!! I could've fell in the floor! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Girl!I l love you, God knows I Do!! but you know you can't dance! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ you are hilarious!

  9. Funny how ppl Lie Lie to cover up thier B.S -My Negro Exit Fee card – perhaps it was always a My Negro Exit Fee card to begin with there's more behind the My Negro Exit Fee card story they both need to stop it- ppl should stop being so blind- Beautiful Oprah have helped ppl -Ugly Illumanati Oprah have hurt ppl behind the scenes.

  10. OPRAH YOU ARE THE WOREST PERSON IN THE UNIVERSE. GO TO HELL. I HATE YOU THE MOST THAN ANY ONE ELSE IN THE UNIVERSE. YOU ARE A DEVIL

  11. Gayle and Oprah both can kneel together side by side and wait for a bukkake facial. Tell Oprah to keep her glasses on.

  12. eeeerm… if the friend is genuine she can't let that first class opportunity get wasted. Friend's should want you to have nice things.. even of they ain't participating. she should be able to handle the altitude…

  13. I need for this to be a tv show on the regular! Yโ€™all are hilarious YET hella real๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

  14. Iโ€™m confused why these people got to read their own personal questions on a card ๐Ÿง๐Ÿง๐Ÿง

  15. Your friendship is awesome and reminds me of my friendship with my best friend for the same amount of years as your, 40 years from becoming young mom's to becoming grandmoms, and being such a strong source of support along with her husband thru my difficult period of my divorce, we loved and respected each other never having a single day of dispute or jealousy, sadly she passed away two and a half years ago. I miss her dearly

  16. First of all Oprah hasn't touched a public plane in a quarter of a century lol so no she wouldn't have this problem lol she would invite you on her private jet however ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. I donโ€™t think I would have had to encourage my friend to take the first class seat. Oh hell no, she would have jumped at it in a flash and bragged about it throughout the entire trip.

  18. I canโ€™t stand it when people criticize the way another person dances! The dancer is dancing to what moves THEM, not you!

  19. Stay in coach for what? Girl take your first class seat and live your best life. The friend will be okay! Itโ€™s one lil plane ride.

  20. I could care less if my friend went to 1st class. That means free alcohol and she can use the money she saves to buy me a drink once we get to our destination! Thatโ€™s how we operate! ๐Ÿฅ‚๐ŸŽ‰

  21. Is it just me or was I forced fed a Weight Watchers commercial??? I think force feeding is against their bylaws.

  22. well, 1st class is not cheap, is easy for Oprah & Gayle to say stay because 1st class is nothing to them, lol
    if I m that friend I totally understand and want my friend enjoy the 1st class.

  23. Was her last name "Fruithandler" Hmmm…๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ’ญโœŠ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ†Obviously, my sense of humor hasn't matured much since 5th grade ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

  24. Oprah you need to do the movie stage coach Annie ! The African American women mail carrier for gotten History ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ‘

  25. I think if my friend got lucky and upgraded to first class on a short trip I'd be so chuffed. We'd hatch a plan about how we'd both milk the benefits, like bringing me snacks from first class. On a long haul trip, then she shouldn't leave.

  26. Oh boy. Advice from the two biggest self promoters on earth. Oprah and her give-always are insensitive, eg. โ€œYou must have one of these cashmere sweaters. I bought all the colors!

    Right, like everyone can afford them. And, yes Oprah, we all know about your weight. You mention it every chance you get.

  27. OMG! Matching shirts. I remember me and one of my best friends, wore matching outfits to the roller skating rink, in. Bronx, NY. I got own her nerves so, bad. Sge tild eberyone she would not di it again. I just wanted people to see us and notice it. Ha, Ha, Ha. I had the best time of my life.

  28. My husband has been an independent filmmaker since a teenager. I always believe in keeping our overhead low so he can live his dream. Living in Boats, basements and now RV in Florida, He done films such as (BOYS) which he won 7 awards and been doing a youtube show called "The Boston Dad". My 14 year old son Ocean Peace, who was homeschooled all his life is now going to high school with a lot of wealthy friends living in big houses. He is now ashamed of our RV lifestyle and his dad not making his breakthrough with all his hard work in the entertainment industry. My husband wants to move back to Los Angeles but agreed to let the kids finish their childhood in theme park heaven as Orlando is. Now Ocean is encouraging my husband to get a job and quit doing what he loves. I or my 17 year old daughter Soleil Love never required that from him. Should he give up his dream for our son and get a normal job? Or keep pushing for that breakthrough?

  29. Me and my best friend – I would be celebrating if she was updated to first class if we were on a plane trip together and I would be giving her major 'hell yes' and so happy for her because I want the best for her and also because then maybe her seat will be empty beside me in economy and I get extra room too. And then also I would bug her for every detail about first class after and also encourage her to stow some of the first class goodies in her bag to share with me later!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *